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Legacy Parenting Plans

11/4/2015

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A legacy parenting plan is a non-legal document you leave to the individuals you select to be your child’s guardian and/or property manager to assist them in fulfilling their roles. The format and content can be whatever you want. 


Questions you might want to answer include:

What are those things that you have done or said as a parent of which you are particularly proud?  What are the biggest mistakes you feel you have made?

What are some techniques you tried as a parent that elicited an overwhelmingly positive response in your child?  What have you tried that failed miserably? What are your favorite parenting books and why?

The details of a difficult parenting situation that you have handled that could be the framework for handling similar circumstances. How you plan to handle expected parenting issues like dating, allowance, drugs use, fights, etc.


What aspects of your guardian’s parenting you admire that led you to select them? What aspects of your property manager’s judgment you admire that led you to select them?

The plan might also include a statement of what you consider your deepest values and most important lifestyle choices and the steps you have taken to help cultivate these qualities in your child. You might also want to include any family rituals and traditions that you would want carried on. 

You may also want to take some time to describe you children as individuals. What makes them unique? What are their strengths? What are their interests? 

What do they have a flair for and what talents have you tried to nurture?

 A few additional areas to write about could include: food restrictions and/or special needs; educational philosophy (i.e. describe your ideal school); and religious or spiritual upbringing.
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Family Communication and Health Care Directives

7/15/2015

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Communication is the single most important step in health care planning. Talk about your wishes with the people who may be called upon to speak or decide for you and your family. Why?

  • No matter what your advance directive says, others may not fully understand your wishes. The more thoroughly you communicate, the easier it will be for everyone to respect your wishes.
  • It will help you think about what you really want. Others will ask you questions or tell you things that will make you think about your wishes in another way.
  • It will help your loved ones make difficult decisions with less pain, doubt, and anxiety.
  • It may save money. Sometimes families continue medical treatments long past the point where they are helpful, simply because they are unsure what their loved one would have wanted. This is emotionally and financially costly… and unnecessary.

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Outlining Treatment Options ifn Your Advance Health Care Directive

6/18/2015

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When writing an Advance Health Care Directive you can include directions about how the patient wants to receive treatment and what other help and support they want at end of life.  Some examples of other directions that can be included are:

  • I want my doctor to give me enough medicine to relieve my pain, even if that means that I will be drowsy or sleep more than I would otherwise.
  • I want my doctor to give me enough medicine to relieve my pain, but I want my pain medication reduced frequently to allow me moments of lucidity.
  • I want my Health Care Agent to explore alternative medicine treatments.
  • I want to have personal care like shaving, nail clipping, hair brushing, and teeth brushing as long as they do not cause me pain or discomfort.
  • I want to have people with me when possible.  The visitors that would be most meaningful to me are: __________________________________________
  • I want to have my hand held and to be talked to when possible, even if I don’t seem to respond to the voice or touch of others.
  • I also want to have religious readings and well-loved poems read aloud when I am near death, such as: ______________________________________
  • If I am alone and awake I would like to have music or books on tape playing, such as: ____________________________________________________
  • I want to have pictures of my loved ones in my room.
  • I want to have flowers or live plants in my room.
  • I want to have a hospice care.
  • I want to be treated at home if possible.
  • I want to have the members of my faith community told that I am sick and asked to pray for me and visit me.
  • I want to have others by my side praying for me when possible.

Advance Health Care Directives can also include directions about organ donation, autopsies, and burial instructions.  This can be very useful as directives are often found and consulted before the Will.

Want to learn more?  Be sure to contact us for a free 1/2 hour consultation.  You can email us at info@phinneyestatelaw.com or call 206.459.1908.

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Mental Health Directives and Other Considerations

5/14/2015

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When it comes to the topics of organ donation, autopsy and burial, Advance Health Care Directives are very useful, as they are often found and consulted before the Will.

It is also possible to specifically address mental health treatment in a special mental health directive.  This can be very useful for a patient who has a history of mental illness such as depression, bipolarity, OCD, or paranoia, because even a duly designated Health Care Agent cannot authorize some forms of mental health treatment unless they have specific permission in such a directive.

For clients who have already received a diagnosis of a serious chronic or terminal decision or a family history of such conditions, we recommend that they sit down with their medical provider to request their insight into what choices are most likely to be made and risks and benefits of the various options and incorporate that into their documents.
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NY Times on Complicated Grief

5/5/2015

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The New York Times did a wonderful article this week on complicated grief. At Phinney Estate Law we work with a lot of clients dealing with grief.  I would agree with the expert quoted in this article that a factor that can make the difference between grief where people are still able to manage their lives and complicated grief is the circumstances of death including whether there was adequate planning by the deceased about end of life care to allow that process to be conflict free and directed.  That is why we always include medical powers of attorney and advanced health care directives in our all of our planning and encourage clients to see this as part of the legacy they leave their family.  If you would like more information on how to create this kind of planning, please contact us for a free 1/2 consultation at (206) 459-1908 or info@phinneyestatelaw.com.
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Where Should I Store Advance Health Care Directive?

4/15/2015

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1.  Keep the original copy of your Advance Health Care Directive and other estate planning documents some place they can be easily found in your home - not your safety deposit box!


2.  Give your chosen Health Care Agent a copy of you Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care and Advance Health Care Directive.  Make sure that your agent knows where to find the original.


3.  Give your doctor a copy of your directive, and make certain it is put in your medical records. If your doctor is not affiliated with any hospital you may also send a copy to the nearest hospital.


4.  If entering a hospital or nursing home, take a copy of your directive with you and ask that it be placed in your medical records.


5.  Some people choose to keep a card with directions to finding their directive in their wallet.


6.  When medics enter your home in an emergency they will look in your bedside table, on your refrigerator door and on your bedroom door.  You may want to leave a copy in one of these locations.





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Advance Health Care Directives

3/31/2015

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An Advanced Health Care Directive is a document that we recommend all clients complete. This is a guide for a patient’s agent(s) and doctors regarding what health care choices the patient would like to make if they can’t speak for themselves. 

While doctors are not required to follow a directive, if they are unwilling to, they must make every reasonable effort to transfer the patient to a doctor who is willing to obey the instructions.

The statute recommends that directives include information about whether the patient would want resuscitation and/or artificial food or hydration if they were either terminally ill or in a permanent unconscious condition. In our experience these directives are more useful if they provide more guidance to doctors and families. 

When working with clients who are not currently facing a terminal diagnosis, we ask them to consider various scenarios and decide what treatment philosophies they would want to guide their doctor and agent in making decisions about their care.  

Questions?  We can help.  Contact us by email or call 206.459.1908 for more information.
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Vocab Lesson: Beneficiaries vs. Heirs

3/2/2015

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A beneficiary is a named recipient of a gift. 

The beneficiary designation is the document that names a beneficiary of a contract such as an annuity, life insurance policy, or retirement account.  Beneficiaries can also be designated in a person's Last Will and Testament or in a Trust.

This is quite different than the more traditional heir...

Historically, heirs are the class of persons entitled to take or share, in whole or in part, any real property of an intestate decedent, now generally broadened to include all the property of an intestate decedent who hasn't named beneficiaries.

Instead having to abide by a document, heirs receive inheritance.  For probate purposes, inheritance is receipt of property from an intestate decedent, by right of succession rather than by will.  


For community property characterization or estate tax purposes, inheritance is receipt of property simply as a result of death.


Beneficiaries and heirs are not always the same people and do not necessarily have the same rights or receive their property in the same way.  


To learn more about how to make sure those you want to inherit at your death receive what you would like, contact us to schedule a free 1/2 hour consultation at info@phinneyestatelaw.com
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Thanks for Shout out Within Reach!

12/2/2014

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Within Reach is one of our favorite charities which is why they are part of our Charity Discount program.  Last week they included a great write up about estate planning and Phinney Estate law in their newsletter.  We want to share the link and say "thanks" for the kind words.  
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Selecting a Guardian for Your Child's Person

10/17/2014

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Here are some of the questions to think about for any person you are considering having serve in the role of caring for your child after you pass. 

Remember:  The perfect guardian may not exist. Don’t let that stop you from choosing the best of your options!

1. Does this person have experience in raising or caring for children?

2. Does this person share your core values about life? Would he or she model these for your child?

3. Does this person share your philosophy about parenting? Does he or she take a similar approach to discipline? 

4. Does this person share your cultural and religious background so that he or she can carry on important traditions with your child?

5. Does this person have the emotional resources to take on the responsibility of raising your children? 

6. Is this person easily affectionate? Would he or she deal well with a child who is experiencing grief?

7. Is this person young and/or healthy enough that he or she would be physically up to raising a child until your child reaches 18?

8. Does your child have an emotional relationship with this person to help your child to make this transition?

9. Does this person live near you so that your child could remain in the same school and/or maintain contacts with friends?

10. Does this person have ties to both sides of the family so that the child would have regular contact with extended family on both sides?

11. Would your child support your choice? Would this selection create conflict for your families?

12. Is this person in a stable relationship that would provide your child with a two-parent home?

13. If this person is currently closer to one child than the other, can he or she avoid playing favorites?

14. Will this person be able to afford to care for your children with the resources you can leave to care for them?

Choosing a guardian for your child is not always easy.  However, planning ahead thoughtfully can save a lot of time and heartache in the case of an unexpected loss.  

Want additional information about creating a plan for your family?  Phinney Estate Law offers free community classes.  We've love to speak to your group or organization.  Click here to learn more.  
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